Tag: marriage

• What a "Wedding Merchants" Convention Taught Me about Marriage

  3 days ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  I’ve always suspected, to paraphrase an adage from evolutionary science, that the marriage replicates the wedding. The wedding’s style is a germinal expression of the marriage to come, its strengths, vulnerabilities, and dreams. Looking back, many of my marriage’s resources and weaknesses were ... Read More

• The More Powerful Women Get (in the Office) the Less Powerful Women Get (in the Bedroom)…

  about 1 month ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  Pew research released yesterday finds a “gender reversal” in career aspirations. Sixty-six percent (66%) of women between the ages of 18 and 34 now rate a “high-paying career” as one of the most important goals, compared to 59% of men. Both men and women ranked marriage and parenthood as more ... Read More

• Want a better marriage? Then Find some Couple-Friends

  about 1 month ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  Do you and your partner have “couple friends”--other couples that you socialize with as a couple? Have you thought about their role in your marriage? University of Maryland professor Geoffrey Greif has. He and co-author Kathleen Holtz Deal conclude in Two Plus Two: Couples and their Couple ... Read More

• Who's Winning the Culture War? What the Numbers Suggest

  2 months ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  I hear quite often enough that my values (liberal if not worse, feminist, tolerant of same-sex marriage) are responsible for American marriage decay. This baffles me anecdotally, as I canvass my small corner of the universe.  I’m 45 and I’ve been married 14 years. I’ve never been divorced. I ... Read More

• Where There’s No Sex in Sex Anymore

  3 months ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  Casablanca, kissing, the giddy exchange of bodily fluids, the pressing of the flesh—It’s all so 20th century. Today there doesn’t need to be sex in your sex anymore. The “virtual,” cyber, or mental affair, variously named, is one of those new frontiers of online social media and the Internet ... Read More

• THE “SLIPPERY SLOPE” ISN’T SLIPPERY: IT’S POT-HOLED, GRAVELLY, AND LITTERED WITH DEBRIS and SPEED BUMPS

  3 months ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  The “slippery slope” is a popular argument in the same-sex marriage debate. Where do you draw the line, opponents argue? If you start allowing marriage between people of the same sex, then why not require that the law recognize threesomes, group marriage, incest, beastiality, and polygamy? Can ... Read More

• Death by a Thousand Nags

  4 months ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  You’ve forgiven an affair. You’ve put up with violations of the marriage’s budget. You’ve been bored, irked, and ignored. But if he mentions picking up a goddamned wet towel off the floor one more time, you’re out of there. That’s the gist of recent research about the real “marriage killer ... Read More

• The Ironically-Married Class, and How They Got There

  4 months ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  Charles Murray wrote a piece on economic inequality and cultural factors that contribute to it in the Wall Street Journal . He vividly describes inequalities between two groups of white Americans, and notes that the poor and working classes have turned away from institutions like marriage. Murray ... Read More

• Do “Tom Sawyer Wives” Take Advantage of their Husbands’ Breadwinning?

  4 months ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  In Marriage Confidential I talk about “workhorse wives” with Tom Sawyer husbands. In these marriages, the husband is the dream-chaser and the wife is the exhausted breadwinner who underwrites his dream. For example, she’s a disgruntled lawyer, and he’s writing the great American novel. She’s an ... Read More

• It’s Not that You’re Splitting Up, it’s That You’re_______ : Four Different and Consoling Ways to Think Your Way Out of a Break-Up

  4 months ago

  Pamela Haag in Marriage 3.0

  I recently participated in a “relationship summit” on break ups. I don’t know how wise or helpful I was. When it comes to break-up and heartache recovery, I’m not sure that anyone’s improved appreciably on the old strategy of “tears, shots of tequila, sleeping on your friend’s ratty sofa, and ... Read More