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Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 20:43:37 +0100

Strange thing to devote your life to fighting. Plenty of marriages are lousy and divorce is the best thing that could happen.

Woody Allen: "My parents never got divorced, tho I begged them to."

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 00:20:48 +0100

I agree, people are less willing to stay in relationships that they are unhappy in- less willing to fight through the ups and downs. Instead, divorce is a much more viable option.

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 13:10:59 +0100

We are all aware of the high divorce rate but we are not shocked by it. We understand it...even those who have not been married. We know friends and family members who have been divorced. I'd like to see the statistic on how many familiy members or friends no long speak to each other. I'd say the number is at least equal to if not highter than the number of failed marriages. Relationships across the board are failing. Not just the marital ones. So it's no surprise to see 51% of them divorced. Somehow, I think if we could sustain familial & platonic relationships, we might just see the divorce rate decline.

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 00:35:55 +0100

I don't blame the women for wanting to be alone. Most 'men' these days have the thinking capacity of a worm with a beer belly.

And whats with all this online dating crap, just take Salsa/Ballroom dancing lessons for a year and go out dancing!

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 16:52:37 +0100

Each marriage is unique but it is influenced by the surrounding culture, religious views and what society values or allows.
America has the pile up of broken marriages because divorce is now acceptable but there were as many unhappy homes before society %u2018allowed%u2019 divorce. With TV shows to help illustrate how to work together as a family, husbands and wives have more of a chance to learn how to find the joy in being together over a lifetime. They can come to a compromise over how they want their marriage to look and define what they want to be together as compared to living alone. Watching Shalom in the Home with my teenage sons is such a help because they get to try out different attitudes and see the consequences. Hopefully, it will help them in defining how they want their marraiges to look and work.

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Sat, 16 Feb 2008 14:09:30 +0100

We went from the me generation to the TOTALLY ABOUT ME generation. People do not rely on others mainly because they do not have to. Worsening political, economic, and environmental conditions may soon change the landscape. We will learn to compromise when we are forced to out of necessity.

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 15:42:13 +0100

Gelen may have a point: it seems like we're looking to tradition and ideals to solve problems, but the problems and conditions we face are harsher than, say, 40 years ago and cannot be solved in the old way.

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 17:19:48 +0100

Marriage is not about love. Marriage is about relationship and contract. Love is an ephemeral concept that is tied up in lust and sex. We need to return to a view of marriage that says that marriage is for the procreation of children, is dissoluble only by the man, and you can get your jollies where ever you can find them as long as that basic agreement of procreation and companionship is not broken.

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Bigthink — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 17:19:46 +0100

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 03:09:16 +0100

While I agree that society is more accepting of singlehood and women have more options (both good), I think the fundamental reason for the increasing levels of separation is selfishness. We live in a day and age (at least in the West) where people are conditioned to put their own needs and feelings first and seem increasingly unable to compromise or show real consideration for others.

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Bigthink — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 04:21:14 +0100

While I appreciate the comments on treating others with respect and kindness, I am not in agreement that the 51% of women who live alone have given up on love. I think that this is more a representation of society accepting different roles for women as well as women viewing different options for themselves.

Comment on: A Land of Broken Marriages

Bigthink — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 04:14:38 +0100

Wow that is awesome! I totally agree. Love is a choice you make and sometimes you have to remind your self to make that choice when the chips get hard