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Comment on: Infatuation versus love

Bigthink — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 16:39:09 +0100

Love is when you want to have a life long relationship or friendship with someone. Love is when you care what happens to them. I don't think it necessarily has to be a sexual relationship.
Being infatuated with someone's physical appearance is shallow and I could not imagine spending days/months/years with a pretty boy from the gym that talks incessantly of his work out regime, diet, and nothing else (= personality of a loaf of bread). Boring!

Comment on: Infatuation versus love

Bigthink — Fri, 16 May 2008 13:28:55 +0100

Infatuation is based in our own fantasies of who someone else might be. It is merely a feeling (most ephemeral) and projection of ourselves onto someone else illustrated by the common occurrence of the feeling happening long before we really know anything at all of the other person. Infatuation is more akin to entertainment.

True love is an act... that of being able to put one's own needs and desires second to someone else's and proceed in our actions based on that. It is a challenge to human nature. True love is something that expands us and makes us better human beings.

Only when infatuation has dissolved away and you are willing to love someone knowing them as they truly are ... often despite that knowledge ... can you know true love.

Comment on: Infatuation versus love

Bigthink — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 19:00:57 +0100

Necro, I agree with you mostly. However, I think if it really is true and real love then that feeling of infatuation will never quite go away.

Comment on: Infatuation versus love

Bigthink — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 12:44:57 +0100

The bigger issue is love and addiction. That can be a dangerous mix up.

Comment on: Infatuation versus love

Bigthink — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 01:49:47 +0100

hmm, i have never thought of it from that perspective. Thats interesting.

Comment on: Infatuation versus love

Bigthink — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 00:26:21 +0100

I don't exactly think the two should be separated. The way I have always looked at it, is that infatuation is that great rush you feel when you meet that special person and you experience various things with him/her. But as that feeling starts to fade, I think you start to grow attached to that person...and that, IMO, is when true love starts.

Of course there is other factors to consider, but if all those are "checked", I don't think that a couple should break up due to the lack of that rush that infatuation gives.