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Comment on: the friend zone...

Bigthink — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 01:09:50 +0100

Love or Friendship MUST be PERMANENT!

Or else ;-)

Or maybe NOT, maybe CHANGE is the key, if you or your lover becomes a stagnant "tick tock" then the relationship must sooner or later come to an end.

Comment on: the friend zone...

Bigthink — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 00:32:44 +0100

Okay, you have gotten on the wrong path. You need to get on the right one. Assuming you know how to have a traditional relationship, start working in this direction. Compliment her (your hair looks shiny-than touch it); Hold her hand while you are walking down the sidewalk; look at her in the eyes when she talks (make sure you are listening!) email her a picture of you; flirt and be suggestive; ....whatever works for you.

Comment on: the friend zone...

Bigthink — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 19:53:42 +0100

If she isn't married yet say & do whatever want. Alls fair in love and war. If she is married-move on. the whole best friend thing sounds a little gay. Sounds like you are being manipulated for reason.Step up like man (assuming you are one) and shut her down.

Comment on: the friend zone...

Bigthink — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 07:39:59 +0100

If she has found someone who she wants to be with then, because you love her, you should respect her decision. If you can't respect her decision, or respecting her decision causes either one of you more harm than good, then you have a duty as someone who cares about her well being to put some distance between the two of you. However, it is possible to be "just friends" even though you may be in love with her. If you two already have a strong friendship then there shouldn't be any problem with you letting her know that you really care about her and her well-being. The biggest problem with a friendship like this is that you are probably going to hurt at times. Its hard, but if you can handle that pain, then by all means, be her friend.

I don't know if that was any help, but it is possible. It is just hard. And you have to set yourself limits so you don't cross the line and jeopardize your friendship or her relationship.