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Bigthink — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 14:20:53 +0100

First of all "early twenties" is too young to get married. I would suggest over thrity as a safer bet for survival. Back to your question. If your friend does not have it in his heart to convert, that will create problems for him later as he finds that he does not want to get involved with shallow church pot lucks where people sit around and slam other people's way of life. It makes me wonder, who is really pushing this marriage? Most young men want to sew their wild oats and not live a life of drudgery going to church and listening for hours to mindless sermons with a young woman they want to really just bed, and not deal with abrasive in-laws at such an early age.
In-laws can be wretched and I would suggest if he really wants to marry her, she needs to cut the umbilical chord that is going to be their ticket to making their marriage miserable. They sound like the type that will meddle and work overtime to cause a wedge in their marriage. Good luck!

Comment on: spouse or parents

Bigthink — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 23:22:46 +0100

my opinon if in your adult life you should make your own desison's

Comment on: spouse or parents

Bigthink — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 19:59:42 +0100

An ox should not be yoked with a donkey. It is not good to be unequally yoked. One is always pulling the other along and the other is always holding the one back. Even if religion doesn't seem to be factor between the two of them right now, it is something that could spring up later. If the parents are trying to impart this wisdom, I think its okay for them to speak up. If its purely out of prejudice then I think they should keep quiet.

I don't think conversion to appease the parents is a good idea. It is likely to create feelings of resentment and friction later. He should want to convert because he wants to convert