Comment on: Why failure in marriages has become so common? Is it lack of commitment?

Bigthink — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 04:16:01 +0100

Hi Gabydoo,
It is truly unbelievable to think of what people are faced with in todays times. It seems that even though we have evolved are supposedly so "past that" that being sub-servient to our mates, especially towards the male counter partner. It is so easy to shut down the rhetoric of why a "man" is a "man" and "woman" is a "woman". But today between society pushing boundarys or respect, decency, and trading them in for acting superior, acting as though their is no accountability, it is as though the two people don't really see a good impression of the other person. It is a shawdow of the person, it is too shallow, and only interested in immediate gratification. And God only knows like you suggested, ask any ones whos been married for the long run, they will easily tell you a lot of forgiveness, especially on the part of the women, that by no means is meant to sound anti-quated, but look at the odds. Divorce means seperating everything about "us" the things we liked about one another, the lawyers involved, people with an ounce of brains would be lot richer if for acting as their own protection rather than hiring a lawyer. People can argue with one another than they should be able to defend themselves as well. It is unfortunate for the 100's and 1000's of children that are left with out their parents. They have to get used to a different life, for some kids it is very traumatic, they are aware of the loss. Other kids sometimes are actually thankfull their parents have split. Ultimately it is a very selfish act, people need to be more open minded and think about the children and the implication of children and how this will change their lives, which it does. Kids are not really thrilled about the prospects of being rasied by "other" people it is hard enough being raised by parents, but by people who are litterally total strangers in the way just biologically speaking is volumes out of counsuel to the young people that asked to stomach these situations, and the step-parents that may be reluctant as well to be left to raise someone elses child. It is a huge responsibility for the person to undertake as well. Mind you if the chemistry is not there, it is that much more of struggle. The parent is always the parent otherwise, and recognizes their childs behavior, even when they would rather not, they know exactly what is going on.

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